Wednesday 30 September 2015

FIXING IT

It was a pair of small orange scissors – quite simple and cheap. While it played a very important role in my kitchen, it was not a prized possession and quite easily replaceable. So when it broke one day, I didn’t think twice about throwing it into the dustbin. But my then friend and now husband stopped me. He took the scissors, wound up the broken plastic part with thread, coated it up with hot wax from a candle and behold, my tiny scissors was back to being fully operational. Frankly I was quite impressed with him. He looked like the kind of guy who could do things around the house :P. Such guys make great husbands!!!

Anyways, it was 5 years ago and I still have that pair of scissors and it is still cutting things up quite well. It would have never crossed my mind to fix it up like that. It is exactly how most urban people live. When things get broken, we throw it away and buy a new one. We think we do not have the time to fix it or that we have enough money to buy a new one with more “advanced technology”. So what is wrong with it – you would say. I say we should give “fixing things” a chance before we jump to the store to buy a replacement. Here are my thoughts on why.

I think we don’t really value the things we own. Often that’s the case with the people in our lives too. While we use our possessions mercilessly, we take them for granted. But the moment they threaten to not serve us, we throw them away. Imagine if we were treated this way by the other people in our lives? I say we need to learn to value the things and people around us. Can we survive a single day without them? No. Then why don’t we give our scissors, tools and phones a second chance? Why not take care of them and coax them to stay with us a little longer. Take them to the guy who fixes things and get them working. Who knows how many more years it could serve you.

You might wonder - why should you take the effort? You could just buy a replacement with much lesser effort and time. Well here’s why – You save lots of money!!!

Most of the times, fixing things would save you quite a lot of money. Here’s an example. My laptop charger broke a couple of years ago, when I was in metro city in the south. When I took it to the showroom, they suggested I buy a new charger which charged me 1500 rupees. Well, I didn’t mind then. That charger served me for two years, till it broke again a week ago. Unfortunately (or fortunately?) I live in a very small town. When I took the charger to the only computer shop in the town, he gave me two options. One was to order for a new charger which will cost me 1500 rupees again but I would have to wait for a couple of days. While I was contemplating life without the laptop for those couple of days, the shop owner gave me the other option. He could fix my charger for 200 rupees and he could do it right then. A little more than an hour later, I was on my way back home with a fully functional charger in my bag and the idea of this post in my head.

Is this not great? We live in India- the land of Jugaad. They say anything can be done or fixed or customized in India. Then why not use this great ability which we have around us in abundance?

Here is another reason to try fixing things – Do not fall prey to consumerism. Everywhere we see, we are being pushed, cajoled, manipulated or convinced to have more, spend more, buy more. I don’t get it why do we need so much? Frankly we don’t really require that latest smartphone or the expensive stereo but these corporations with their flashy products and glossy commercials psychologically convince us that we cannot do without them. They are just making money!!! Why don’t we get that? More importantly, they are making money by taking away our money – our hard earned money. And we give it away without a second thought. I say we say no to consumerism. Lets buy things which we really cannot do without and leave the rest. Life would easier, simpler and more happier.

I know what you are thinking right now. Of course its your money and you can spend it the way you want to. But atleast think about the environment. Each of our human products which is being built/made is destroying our world little by little. The waste from the factories dumped around, the resources being consumed, the air and water being polluted – it is not “them” that’s doing all this. It is us too – every time we buy something, they make another two for it. We cannot do without many things, but lets not encourage the manufacturing of the luxury items. Or try and make the phones, laptops, mixer or TV we own work longer and postpone buying new ones. Each time we do that, that is one less item being produced, our tiny contribution to environment’s conservation. And of course one more livelihood – the repairing guy gets a chance to live. Here’s how it happens.

Our car got some major trouble recently. The service centre gave us a quote of 75K – their solution was to replace every troublesome part with a new one – even if the part was just dented. Instead, we took the car to the local mechanic and two days later – the car was completely fixed with the same old parts but working absolutely well and with just 15 K in monetary damages. We get a new car, and the mechanic gets his livelihood. There you go.

I wonder what kind of message are we leaving for our future generations. Instead of this guzzling of new stuff which appears in the market, we need to teach them to value things. We need them to learn to be self sufficient – they should be able to fix things themselves; whether it is broken scissors or a broken relationship. They should learn to not throw away things at the first sign of trouble and learn to make them work. If we are able to pass the right message, then they will be less cruel and learn to give things and people a second chance.

There is this famous joke about how Indians use a T shirt in different ways as it ages, till it becomes a mop. I think we should be proud of this quality. Most of the country does live like this. I grew up in a home where the milk packets, used bottles and tins  were sold to the recycling guy (raddiwala for u), cream from the milk was used to make home made butter and used/torn clothes were sold to old ladies in exchange of utensils and other kitchen ware. Things were not just strewn around the garbage. But the urban lot is slowly moving away from all of this, including me. We have been so much influenced by the west and the world of consumerism. We need to remind us of ourselves, our roots, our values. Maybe we need something like the “Made in India” movement – we need a “Fix it” movement. 

Sunday 20 September 2015

WANTING MORE AND MORE ON IT

No matter how many resolutions and projects I make, inspirational books and movies I see or the countless self help books and articles I read – deep inside I have not changed at all. Let me correct myself – I haven't changed even on the superficial level. To be clear: change here means – self improvement. I always want to be better than I already am. What kind of better would you ask – why? It’s the same as everybody wishes – I want to be happier, more calm and peaceful, less angry, more smart and efficient, more creative, be better at my work, make full use of potentials, opportunities and situations, be a better wife, mother, daughter, be of more use to the world, etc. This list is endless.

Anyway, here we have me – always wanting more of everything; mostly from myself, and here is the endless material available in the world in the from of books, talks and coaches on how to reach there, i.e., get more out of yourself. Sounds good right? Problem followed by the solution. Unfortunately none of them have helped me so far. I have followed the suggestions and advises from these resources to the T but they are not helping at all. I am still unsatisfied with myself. All the time.

I kept pondering over this for a long time. After a lot of epiphanies and realizations over time (during which I came up with several plans, projects and strategies) I began to feel like an onion. I peel off a layer thinking – finally I have figured out what is wrong with me or the world and now I can correct that thing. But soon that euphoria dies down and I realize there is another layer below. This has happened several times, and frankly by now I am quite confused between each layers – I mean the realizations and learning are quite mixed up in my head. Putting all this aside, this peeing of layers – maybe that is what is called the process of developing wisdom. While I cannot claim to having any of it, maybe, I am in the process.

Wise or not, this onion idea is hardly going to help me with my problem. But one fine day, a simple thought dawned on me. Ok, I should be frank. The idea didn’t just dawn on me, but I rather read about it in a book – ONE STRAW REVOLUTION. Anyways here it is – maybe my problem is the problem. I mean, my need for more – from myself and the world- that is the problem. Why do I want more of everything? What is wrong with what I have? The fact is that I have a lot – family, friends, security, love, time and health. Then why want more? What will I get when I have more? If I have learnt anything from the past – I will still be me after I get the “more”. Would I be happier if I am more smart, efficient or have more time? Why – even now I have more of these things than 10 years ago. But am I happier than I was 10 years ago? I don’t think so. Then why not be happy just with what I have. Right now, right here. Bang – here I feel is the solution to my issue.

In wanting more and obsessing about it I am losing the only thing I really have – my present. By removing this “wanting more” clause from my head, I can learn to be happy with myself and things NOW. Not in the future when I will have the “more” but now.

Don’t get me wrong. I am still for self improvement and development and all that. What I am talking about here is separating the happiness quotient from it. Becoming better should be a natural result of doing what you do well, it shouldn’t be an obsession. It shouldn't be a condition on which your well being depends. Simply put do what you do – well – and you will be happy. Any better you get, is additional bonus.

Actually – this is just a part of the whole picture. Not “wanting more” alone is not enough. There is the necessary removal of all unwanted things, focusing the on the true essentials and living with less – less materials, less thoughts, less distractions and less projects. Do less, but do whatever you do well. More on the whole picture in later posts.


A last word – I wonder if is this realization too a layer of the onion that is me?